I apologize that it's not a Marlin fix, but can you wire a low current LED to the probe signal line? I've done that to the piezo probe on my delta, and it is nice to be able to see the LED flash when the probe is triggered. There is a need for what you want in Marlin. It's a neat idea, and you may want to add a feature request to the Marlin github. It should be easy to do, if it doesn't already exist.