I have been working on this kit for too long. Here is a link to the crap I bought https://www.3dprintersonlinestore.com/delta-3d-printer-kit

I finally got g28 to bring the extruder all the way up and tap the endstops. However, the XYZ indicator says it is at "-80 -80 0". How do I make this read "0 0 230" does it need to?

Also, when i g29 it, it does the auto leveling and touches the plate in 9 spots but then preceeds to try and smash through the plate. I let it run the entire g29 and watched where the extruder came to rest. It stopped about -25mm under where the plate would be. What do I need to do to fix this?

It seems your controller has the wrong firmware. (Cartesian vs. Delta )
Ask He3D for the right firmware/configuration.h.
-Olaf