If you are using RAMPS and connecting it to heaters and fans connector, I would put some freewheeling diode to protect the transistor. When FET stops conducting, the coil current goes down. Coil in relay is inductor and inductor doesn't want that. It releases its stored energy as higher voltage and might burn your FET. Now putting diode between coil's ends this energy is feed back to coil where it eventually will be heat.
Putting the diode is simple. Put it wrong way and it is short circuit and put it right way it works as freewheeling diode. Right way to put it is GND ---|>--- 12V
Also you probably need to tell firmware how to control your new heater.